35 French Gay Slang Words You Need to Know


Last Updated: August 31, 2022

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No matter where you go, gay lingo will always be colorful, witty, unabashed, and quite delightful. French gay slang is no different.

French gay-speak is generally translated from English/American gay slang, and as with its heterosexual counterpart, it is best to know a thing or two about it, whatever your sexuality.

If you are curious about gay slang and how to say gay, lesbian, or homosexual in French, we compiled a list for you! 

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A word of caution though, this article is not for everyone as it contains some sexual terminology that may be offensive to some.

So, if you are sensitive to this sort of thing, please stop now. If not, then check out the list of slang words grouped into two: gay guy lingo, and lesbian slang.

You can also download this list in PDF format.

French slang for Gay men

French gay slangIn EnglishWhat it means
ActiftopThe gay partner who plays the active role in sexual activity
PassifBottomThe gay person at the receiving end of sexual activity; the passive sexual partner
Un Ours / Un bearA bearA term for a bigger, hairier and older gay guy.
Calinodrôme“Hugport/ Hugdrome” (made-up word)A concept by the de l'Association “Les Flamands Roses” where a group of LGBT partners can engage in affectionate (hugs= calins) but non-sexual activity
Chaser (or Chasseur)A bear chaserThis is basically a gay guy who prefers and pursues “bears”.
ComtesseCountessA homosexual (usually of regular age) who is well-mannered, elegant and often financially secure
OursonBear cubA big, hairy, but younger gay guy
CopinegirlfriendThe female counterpart of “copain” which means buddy or friend. Usually used when talking to another gay person in specific places.
Crevette / MinetTwinkA younger, thinner, non-hairy gay guy.
DaddyDaddyA financially stable and mature gay guy.
DindeTurkeyAn effeminate gay who keeps abreast with fashion. Basically a gay metrosexual.
DiscretDiscreetA reserved and secretive gay guy who manages his sexual liaisons privately.
EddyA homophobic person with violent tendencies.
FAP (or Fag Hag)Fag HagA female who prefers gay friends
Folle (or Follasse)QueenAn effeminate gay man
GitonA freeloader financially supported by a mature gay man.
Grande dameA somewhat aloof gay adult who flamboyantly parades around in bars and generally ignores the other guests
Grande folleA gay male with highly exaggerated feminine appearance.
LoutreOtterA hairy (but thin) gay man.
RouxGingerA gay guy with red hair.
SportifJockA sporty gay guy with an athletic build.
Ours PolairePolar bearAn old, hairy gay guy with greying or white hair
Sub.SubmissiveA gay man who likes to play a subordinate and passive sexual role.
TriaudesA place where gay people meet up.
VanillaA soft sexual play; a non-kinky kind of sexual activity
YAG (Gay upside down)Homosexuals who refuse to be associated with a gay group or community and are recognised by their lifestyle.

French slang for Lesbians

Lesbians have their own set of slang lingo too. We’ve listed some of the most common below.

French lesbian slangIn EnglishWhat it means
BalaskoThe derogatory term for a masculine, typically aggressive lesbian (named after the character of a movie played by the actress Josiane Balasko in the film Gazon maudit or “French Twist”).
ButchButchA very mannish lesbian with masculine looks, behaviour, attire, language and interests. Similar to “truck driver”
Bolès LesbienneLesbianA derogatory term for lesbian, originating from the Anglo-American term “lesbo”. But seen as insulting
CamionneuseTruck driverA lesbian with no feminine aspects whatsoever; a bull-dyke
Étoile d'or“A gold star”A lesbian who has never tried sex with a man.
FemFeminineA lesbian who does not try to reject her feminine side and still acts or dresses the part.
Futch/bemFutchA lesbian looks feminine, but has a masculine dress and/or style.
La sexualité Bambi“The Bambi sexuality”Physical interaction revolving mostly on touching, kissing and fondling
Lesbienne Lipstick « rouge à lèvres »Lesbian “lipstick”A very feminine and stylish dress code for lesbians

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French gay slang, like its counterparts in English and other languages can be pretty funny but also offensive. You can also use it to converse the LGBTQ+ community and being gay in French. Use with caution! Remember to be always respectful and kind. 

In case you want to add more or know the English slang for some of the items mentioned above, feel free to sound off in the comments section.

For more related readings, check out the following:

What is it like to be gay in France? (Podcast #40)

French slang for dining and drinking

French slang to describe people and places on a night out

About the author 

Frederic Bibard is the founder of Talk in French, a company that helps french learners to practice and improve their french. Macaron addict. Jacques Audiard fan. You can contact him on Instagram

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